Can anger be a good thing? The other day I was thinking about anger and how it can be used in a positive manner. As with every emotion I believe anger is just a symptom of either fear, trauma and/or insecurity. I think if a person is emotionally mature anger can be used as a form of motivation. It's an energy that can be manipulated to encourage change to better any one's circumstance.
But it takes practice. I think for me the first thing is to acknowledge what I am feeling, then I have to find the source as to why. I think it's important to do the research because it will help me become aware of what is going on and instead of acting in an impulsive manner. I can be clear about the source of the issue and learn to be fair and concise with little to no drama. I am not saying it works every time but when I do use my intelligence than relying on my re-action, there is less of chance of me regretting.
I learned that anger isn't the source of evil intent. People do that without needing it as a resource.
Tuesday, May 27, 2014
Monday, May 19, 2014
Random Thoughts
A few weeks ago I went over my mother's house to visit Grandma. She's 89 years old and has seen and been through a great deal. Last time I visited her was on her birthday. I asked her how she feels about being 89 and seeing her children, grandchildren and now great grandchildren grow up. She told me she felt absolutely blessed. Things are not how she imagined to be, but she is okay with life in general. Coming from my grandmother that means a allot.
In speaking with her she told me some of her regrets. One of her major regrets was the fact that she never took the time to really take care of herself. I thought that was interesting, she felt that her priorities in life was off. In the midst of taking care of everyone else she forgot herself. Her struggles paid of for her children, but she never had the opportunity to reap the rewards for herself. Not even a little bit. I was saddened to know that at 89 that still could be someones biggest regret. But it does make sense.
In retrospect I believe that many women do have similar regrets. One of those unspoken wishes, that can never be said out loud. In talking to her I learned allot.
Here is some of her wisdom that she provided me with.
Going through pain doesn't mean your tough, sometimes it means you are stupid.
Staying stuck on stupid long enough. Can make a permanent impression on you. Learn to Grow UP!!!!
Loving someone else is another way of falling in love with yourself all over again. It's a gift you give yourself and hopefully you are able to provide it to another.
Joy, happiness, pain, love isn't an accident it's always a decision. You gauge whether it's good enough to endure, enjoy or move on.
Narcissism lives in secret places. Self preservation comes out only during emergencies or desperation.
So here are a few of her words of wisdom.
Hope it serves someone well. I know it will for me.
In speaking with her she told me some of her regrets. One of her major regrets was the fact that she never took the time to really take care of herself. I thought that was interesting, she felt that her priorities in life was off. In the midst of taking care of everyone else she forgot herself. Her struggles paid of for her children, but she never had the opportunity to reap the rewards for herself. Not even a little bit. I was saddened to know that at 89 that still could be someones biggest regret. But it does make sense.
In retrospect I believe that many women do have similar regrets. One of those unspoken wishes, that can never be said out loud. In talking to her I learned allot.
Here is some of her wisdom that she provided me with.
Going through pain doesn't mean your tough, sometimes it means you are stupid.
Staying stuck on stupid long enough. Can make a permanent impression on you. Learn to Grow UP!!!!
Loving someone else is another way of falling in love with yourself all over again. It's a gift you give yourself and hopefully you are able to provide it to another.
Joy, happiness, pain, love isn't an accident it's always a decision. You gauge whether it's good enough to endure, enjoy or move on.
Narcissism lives in secret places. Self preservation comes out only during emergencies or desperation.
So here are a few of her words of wisdom.
Hope it serves someone well. I know it will for me.
Thursday, May 15, 2014
Self.
(Disclaimer: Excuse the horrific grammatical error. I really don't have any excuse other than being lazy.)
For the last couple of weeks I have been thinking a great deal about self-worth. And I wonder to myself, What does a person who truly value their sense of being look and act like? What does self-love, self-worth, self-preservation, self- realization look like? What is a complete human being? And does finding a purpose, function, use in life really is the meaning of finding happiness?
You see I don't think I know what it means to be happy and fulfilled. I don't know if it is even worth the journey. As a child I always wondered about how life works as an adult. I always envisioned them to be demi-gods because they always had an answer for everything. Now being an adult I realize allot of what they were saying was pure shit. A facade. It was during my teenage years I realize that adults were indeed stupid and unfortunately still are. But I digress.
Could self-worth also be a facade, a false concept telling people that there is more to there existence than what they believe, see, hear and know? A new means for talk shows fill the audience with wild ideas only to sell them new products or promote guru's, spiritual leaders and actors.
I don't know. I like to think it is indeed real. That there is so much more to us than what we can even dream. But what is self-worth? I believe it's a form of validating one's existence, life, worth, dream, desire, purpose and function. But what is it really?
Maybe I try to answer that next time.
For the last couple of weeks I have been thinking a great deal about self-worth. And I wonder to myself, What does a person who truly value their sense of being look and act like? What does self-love, self-worth, self-preservation, self- realization look like? What is a complete human being? And does finding a purpose, function, use in life really is the meaning of finding happiness?
You see I don't think I know what it means to be happy and fulfilled. I don't know if it is even worth the journey. As a child I always wondered about how life works as an adult. I always envisioned them to be demi-gods because they always had an answer for everything. Now being an adult I realize allot of what they were saying was pure shit. A facade. It was during my teenage years I realize that adults were indeed stupid and unfortunately still are. But I digress.
Could self-worth also be a facade, a false concept telling people that there is more to there existence than what they believe, see, hear and know? A new means for talk shows fill the audience with wild ideas only to sell them new products or promote guru's, spiritual leaders and actors.
I don't know. I like to think it is indeed real. That there is so much more to us than what we can even dream. But what is self-worth? I believe it's a form of validating one's existence, life, worth, dream, desire, purpose and function. But what is it really?
Maybe I try to answer that next time.
Tuesday, May 13, 2014
A new start.
Finally I have done it. Created a blog strictly for my thoughts. To express myself as I see fit. As of late I have been doing allot of thinking hence the blog title, but, it's more than just expressing my thoughts it's an opportunity to share and maybe exchange opinions, ideas and concepts.
Hopefully this will be a positive experience and most importantly a learning one.
As Always,
Blessings
Hopefully this will be a positive experience and most importantly a learning one.
As Always,
Blessings
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